Advice for dating a woman with children
The more you talk to someone, the more the relationship tends to grow.2. Don’t expect to meet them, and have them accept you right away and want you around all of the time.If this happens, then you are the exception to the rule.We have undergone massive life shifts from single-hood to married life, pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding; enduring radical changes to our bodies and minds.We are connected, interwoven with the lives of our children.It turns out there is very little literature on how to date someone who has children. After running into him over a period of months, we began dating.Overnight, I was thrown into a brave, new world -- one that involved a tween.You have to make sure you're serious and your partner is serious before you bring the kiddos into the mix.
The only books I could find were about step-parenting. Considering the divorce rate in this country, I thought finding the advice would be easy. *crickets* My relationship with this man continued for... But I did learn a LOT about the kiddos and how to deal with them.
If you are dating a woman with kids, you probably aren’t doing it just for fun. You’ve got to have the talk.”I bring that up because that is a classic case where a single guy began dating a woman with a child, and had so much to learn and go through.
You most likely really, really like the woman (or love her) and you are smart enough to realize that with her, comes her children. Same is the case with Scott Trick, Divorced Guy Grinning’s guest blogger.
Either way, the connection to the children is just as important as the bond to their parent.
Remember you are dating the person, but the children will be a big part of the relationship, and it is imperative that you take the time to cultivate the relationship with them as well.
Knowing that I was moving back to a small town after years of living in cities, I looked at my therapist and said: "I can't date someone who has children. And while I was in love with both the man and the kid, I was totally lost. There is nothing wrong with single or divorced parents. But my friends back home in the small town I was moving back to? He had a son with his ex-girlfriend, who I also remember from my past.